How Can I Help my Children Adjust?

You want to be sensitive to your children’s needs, concerns, and moods as you go through this process.

  • Prepare:  As parents, you should be on the same page. This is often very difficult, but important. You may need to see a therapist or mediator to help you. You want to agree when you will tell the children and how you plan to tell them. You should also tell them together.
  • Keep it Simple:  Don’t blame the other parent. The most important is that they know you both will be there for them and you will always love them. When discussing the divorce with your children, you want to remember your children’s age and adjust your talk accordingly.

Some resources to help:

  • The Truth about Children and Divorce by Dr. Robert Emery
  • Dinosaurs Divorce – A Guide for Changing Families by LaureneKrasny Brown and Marc Brown
  • When Mom and Dad Separate – Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief From Divorce, written by Marge Heegaard (part of the Drawing out Feelings series).
  • Mom’s House Dad’s House by Isolina Ricci, Ph.D.


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